Being An Adult

Life is a journey we all embark upon, often without a map, and sometimes without even realising we’ve truly begun. I would not be wrong if I say that being an adult is the goal of one’s life. We often define adulthood by chronological age, by legal milestones, or by external markers like careers and families. But I propose that true adulthood is something far deeper, far more profound than ticking off a list of societal expectations. It's a state of being, a mindset, and a powerful embrace of self.

At its core, being an adult is to be autonomous. It is to stand on your own two feet, not just physically, but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. It is the ability to make conscious choices, to navigate the complexities of life, and to chart your own course with a sense of purpose and responsibility. This autonomy is not about isolation; it's about agency. It's about knowing who you are, what you value, and making decisions that align with your authentic self.

Adulthood, in this light, is a unique and vibrant stage between childhood and old age. Adult is someone who is no more affected by childhood needs and parental control (you don’t need someone behind you all the time); and not bothered about the fears of old age. It’s the dynamic present where we are fully engaged, fully capable, and fully ourselves.

Think about our journey from childhood. As children, we are naturally dependent. We rely on caregivers for safety, for guidance, for affirmation. Our needs are often met by others, and our world is largely shaped by the rules and boundaries set by parents or guardians. A fundamental aspect of truly becoming an adult is the liberation from these lingering childhood needs and the diminishing shadows of parental control. It means you no longer require someone constantly "behind you," prompting your every move, validating your every choice, or shielding you from every consequence. It’s the realisation that the internal compass, the voice of your own judgment, has grown strong enough to guide you. This isn't about disrespecting our origins, but about owning our present. It's about stepping into our own authority.

As soon as fears of old age and death set in we cease to be an adult. True adulthood means not being overly bothered by the fears of old age. It's about living so fully in the present, so autonomously and intentionally, that the anxieties of decline, loss, or future uncertainties don't cripple your capacity for joy and action today. This isn't to say we ignore the future, but rather that we approach it from a place of resilience, knowing we have the tools to adapt and find meaning regardless of what lies ahead. It’s an inner peace that allows you to be fully here, now, embracing the richness of your current experience without being pulled back by past dependencies or pushed forward by future anxieties. It’s to anticipate the future, but not be paralysed by its unknowns.

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